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Stop Overthinking Your Relationship

Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner

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It's time to stop overthinking your relationship! The four-step approach in this book will help you move beyond excessive rumination, so you can rediscover joy, ease, and meaningful connection with your partner.

Rumination—obsessive thinking about an idea, situation, or choice that can interfere with normal life—is a common and destructive issue that can negatively impact romantic relationships, whether you're just starting out or have been in a committed relationship for years. If you overthink your relationship and get stuck in cycles of anxiety, blame, or doubt, your negative thinking and judgments about your partner may be unfounded, unwanted, and may even threaten to tear apart an otherwise healthy relationship. You may feel anxious, worried, hopeless, and frustrated, but even if you know your overthinking is a problem, it can be seriously hard to stop.

In Stop Overthinking Your Relationship, certified couples therapist Alicia Muñoz draws from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness to offer an effective, four-step approach to reduce rumination and change negative thinking patterns. By understanding both your own unique attachment style—as well as your partner's—you'll learn how to communicate more effectively, meet each other's needs, and focus on what really matters in your relationship.

Using the SLOW approach, you'll learn how to:

  • See rumination in process
  • Label your rumination cycle
  • Open yourself and make space
  • Welcome blocked experiences
  • This powerful blend of evidence-based psychology and practical guidance will help you overcome the unwanted thoughts and rumination that get in the way of trust and authenticity in your relationship. The book also includes individual and shared exercises, so you can "choose your own adventure" by working with the techniques alone, with your partner, or using a combination of both.

    By practicing the exercises in this user-friendly book, you'll learn how to stop overthinking your relationship and discover a newfound sense of security, confidence, and wholeness—both as an individual and as part of a couple.

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      • Publisher's Weekly

        July 4, 2022
        Therapist Muñoz (A Year of Us) urges couples to stop obsessing and instead embrace discomfort in this earnest if at times vague program. The author warns against “repetitive, negative overthinking... that erodes trust and sabotages love” and offers practical exercises for partners to work through their unproductive thoughts and behavior. She encourages readers to stop dwelling on “difficult moments” and to start “being with them,” but provides little clarification on the difference between the two. Muñoz identifies five “rumination cycles” centered around “blame, control, doubt, worry, and self-pity,” and offers an antidote for each, suggesting for example, that readers overcome doubt by trusting that one’s feelings are valid. To develop a growth mindset, the author recommends her “SLOW” approach (“seeing, labeling, opening, and welcoming”), which aims to reduce overthinking by identifying its triggers and embracing vulnerability. Exercises include using breath work to counteract worry and writing down negative thoughts alongside more affirmative alternatives to practice positive thinking. Muñoz’s systematized approach (“ten dead-end scripts,” “four basic steps you can use to see thoughts,” “four steps of SLOW”) will help readers easily digest her suggestions, even if the meaning behind her frequent exhortations to “be with unsettling experiences” remains hazy. Still, this offers some considerate guidance.

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