Connect to Love

Starred review from February 21, 2011
Neuman, a rabbi and licensed psychotherapist (The Truth about Cheating) offers an enjoyable guide full of helpful tips for couples to get their relationship back on track. Careers, child-rearing, and economic uncertainty take their toll on marital passions, but Neuman wants to guide husband and wife back to the honeymoon period, and with clever ideas like "Turn Back Time Night," where old haunts from their early dates are revisited, he should have some success (critically, these nights call for zero talk of the big trifecta of troubles: work; money; kids). The author doesn’t limit his advice on comportment to retro date nights, however, and delves into the touchy topic of marital sex with great alacrity. In fact the majority of his book tackles sexuality, and Neuman doesn’t mince words. He even confides that both "husbands and wives complain that their partner doesn’t come prepared for sex with a cleanliness quotient that works for both of them. There is nothing wrong with asking for or being asked to clean up before sex." Anyone armed with this brave book—and a good shower—should be able to bring the mojo back to the marriage.